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Hi Fix My Profile,
Always have enjoyed reading your blog once I stumbled on it.
Having been single for the last year, I have started to get onto all of the dating websites to see what is out there. I recently moved from Manchester down to the London area so I was thinking it would be a great way to meet some new people and get myself out there.
A bit about me before I go in my problem, 29 years old, masters in engineering, nice/funny guy and have always been told I am handsome (6″ 2, brown hair, athletic etc etc. I am very respectful and polite whenever I send messages. I always try to find something that we have in common to start a conversation but it seems like no ever responds. I try to funny/witty and ask questions that stand out so I don’t come off as just some other guy. It gets frustrating when I read how everyone wants a successful, funny, smart guy but yet no responses to some of them.
Trying to figure out what I need to do different to make some more connections.
Frustrated Good Guy
Hey Frustrated Good Guy,
I have a bunch of friends I should set you up with, you sound great (and not just because you said nice things about our blog)!
As the guy, you’re in a position of power and if you aren’t getting responses online then use that male privilege to meet girls in real life. A lot of women wouldn’t feel comfortable introducing themselves to men they find attractive but it’s always exciting when a guy comes over to say hi… as long as it’s in a non-creepy way. If you don’t like the idea of hitting on women at bars, then why not strike up a conversation with someone you think is attractive in a coffee shop, or in a park and if there’s chemistry ask them out. The worst that happens is they say no.
If you’re dead set on the dating apps then my best advice is to show your profile to a female friend and ask her for brutally honest feedback. It could be that your pictures don’t do you justice, or maybe your well-intentioned opening lines actually sound corny or ‘try hard’. It’s hard for me to specifically advise without seeing your profile, but I can speak from my own experience on the apps when I say that I’m most likely to respond to someone who opens with a comment or question about one of my photos. That way it doesn’t feel like a canned one-liner that is being used on multiple girls.
If you would like us to have a look at your profile for you and offer some suggestions, please just send me an email [email protected]
Another piece of advice is not to send a million texts if you aren’t getting a reply – this is an online dating ‘no’ for either gender as it immediately makes the other person think you are insane.
Good luck out there! Hopefully you’ll have some luck soon and you’ll share all the stories with us!